What are the important lessons you have learned from your mother's life?
That’s us. At marine drive. She is my mom, I am the one in white - green polo shirt holding my 37-year-old brother.
Yes, you read it right - he is 37 years old. He has because of which his limbs are so weak that he cant stand or sit on his own, He can’t speak either because this syndrome didn't let his brain develop properly, so in the urban slang, he is in the vegetative state. ( It took me 10 minutes to collect enough courage to write vegetative for him) . Studies say the frequency of this syndrome is one out of a hundred thousand (one lakh) births and the average lifespan of such babies are - 15 days. Below is a picture of my wife with my brother on her birthday.
And look what my mom has achieved! She Defies the medical science!! She is nursing him for last 37 years. feeding him spoon by spoon for 3–4 hours a day, cleaning his excreta, understanding his needs just by his expression, talking to him and cheering him up every day along with other 3 siblings and my father. For years she cooked,cleaned and nursed us so that they can save sufficient money for our education.
My mom was a very good looking woman when she was young and was an aspiring air hostess. She left her aspirations and dreams for her child who would never stand up or speak. She always knew that he wouldn’t be able to pay her back in any form ( at least in this world, not sure if there is any other) but she never left him alone and her love for him increased every day. She rarely went to any party, shopping, wedding or kitty just because she was needed to stay back to take care of him. She sacrificed her youth, good times, opportunities, social life, friends, entertainment almost everything so that she can be with my brother and rest of us can enjoy the life. In the early 80s and 90s - she was taunted/cursed by many orthodox people because she delivered such a baby. They asked my parents to disown him. So she stopped going out of the house - She sacrificed everything for nothing.
We together as a family faced a lot of difficult times. Countless times. While my father was weathering all the storm, my mother was the rock foundation which kept us safe from all turbulence. She made each of her kid a fighter and a survivor. She taught us to love unconditionally. She taught us to never leave sides of the needy. <E2> I remember the day when my father passed away suddenly. Every one of us were shattered, my mother was not eating anything, was weeping all the time and fainting frequently. I don’t know how and from where she collected courage and energy and took care of my brother in those conditions when none of us were able to even manage ourselves. </E2>
The one thing which I specifically learned from her life is -
"When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Gets Going".
P.S. the picture I posted is from few days back when my mother and my brother saw the sea for the first time. They were quite excited. So, I have decided that till she is with me, we will visit all the places they have missed in last 40 years.
Edit 1 - Thanks for the rectifying my grammatical mistakes.
Thank you all for your kind words, love and support. I am so overwhelmed that i am short of words. My mother is on Quora ( although on read-only mode ), I just want to see her reaction when she will read your comments.
’s comment made realize that I forgot to mention the support and help we (me, my other brother and my sister) received from our spouses. Million thanks to them.
Edit 2 - In one of the comments, a fellow Quorain suggested us not to keep my brother in further pain and we must put him down. ( I didn't feel bad for the comment, it's individual's choice and nothing is right or wrong here. ) Then I shared an incident from our troubled past when my mother was unbelievably incredible that the respect for her which he had, increased millions of times. I thought to add that incident also. Mentioned under section <E2></E2>
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